Competitor or Partner? What Two Full Boats Teach Us

Back when my business was focused on coaching sales, I'd scroll past other women doing similar work, and some of them were making millions. Instead of seeing what was possible, I got discouraged. I was comparing my chapter one to their chapter 20, and if I'm honest, it made me a little envious.

I've watched the same thing in networking groups that allow only one person per industry. Women get territorial, and some get mad when someone refers a business owner in their field. Underneath it, I think, is a scarcity mindset: if she's succeeding, there isn't enough left for me.

Two boats, both full

My turning point came when I started studying how Jesus built a network. At least four of the disciples, Peter, Andrew, James and John, were fishermen working the same water and selling to the same customers. The world would call them competitors.

In Luke 5, after a night of catching nothing, Simon lets down his nets because Jesus says so, and the catch is so big the nets start to tear. He signals his partners in the other boat, James and John. Here's the detail I don't want you to miss: Peter's boat was full too. Nobody had to give up part of their catch for the other boat to be full. God provided enough for both.

Partner with discernment

That doesn't mean partnering with anyone just because she says she's a Christian or works in your industry. Build the relationship first. Know how she treats her clients and whether she'll do what's best for them even when it isn't best for her. Some people will stay territorial no matter what, and you don't have to chase those relationships.

So this week, look at the words you use about your so-called competitors, then at your heart when her content shows up in your feed. Then do one thing: reach out to a woman in your industry, show up to the event you've been avoiding, or create a space for women in your industry to gather.

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Scripture referenced

• Luke 5:4–10: two fishing crews, called partners, both boats filled

• Mark 1:16–20: Peter and Andrew, and James and John with Zebedee's crew

• Luke 10:1: Jesus sends out 70 (or 72)

• Acts 2:41, 4:4, 5:14: the early church grows to multitudes

FAQs

What does the Bible say about competition in business?

In Luke 5, two fishing crews the world would call competitors are called partners, and God filled both boats. It's a picture of partnership with others in your field.

Should I refer clients to someone in my own industry?

Yes, when you've built a relationship with her and trust how she treats clients. Sending her your overflow, or a client who isn't the right fit, is part of partnering well.

How do I stop comparing my business to someone further ahead?

Remember you may be comparing your chapter one to her chapter 20. Notice your words and your reaction to her success, and give yourself grace while that mindset changes.